Mothers – we all have one whether living or deceased. It is never a simple relationship.
This week I’m going to visit mine, who turned 100 last April. These trips are not easy. Firstly because our relationship was tumultuous. She could be very kind and very cruel, generous and abusive, demanding and acquiescent. I freely acknowledge that I had a part in all of this. The all loving mother and the innocent child are stereotypes that complicate the relationship.
Beyond being a victim and powerless to anything - The next instalment albeit a year later, from Anne Clarke and Marilyn Bradford discussing the hierarchy of labels and recovery from the addiction to story and trauma drama.
Do you know you live with someone who’s an addict, but feel at a loss about how to deal with them? Have you tried conventional approaches but can’t make them work for you?
If you are around an addict, you are likely to feel and act in the following ways: (Questioning what you know to be true)
1. Agreeing to and with things you wouldn’t normally agree to.
2. Helping others out of jams or difficulties they have clearly created for themselves. This can extend to lying for them or doing other behaviors you would not normally engage in.
What have you decided is unchangeable for you? What if 2018 is the time to change that?
My limitations have been popping up in ways I can’t ignore! There are so many points of view I’ve created or bought from this reality about my body, my finances, my relationships, family and who I am, just to mention a few of the areas where I’ve stopped myself. Does any of this sound familiar to you?