Do you know you live with someone who’s an addict, but feel at a loss about how to deal with them?  Have you tried conventional approaches but can’t make them work for you?

If you are around an addict, you are likely to feel and act in the following ways: (Questioning what you know to be true)
1. Agreeing to and with things you wouldn’t normally agree to.
2. Helping others out of jams or difficulties they have clearly created for themselves.  This can extend to lying for them or doing other behaviors you would not normally engage in.

One moment you’re happy, confident, creating your life and the next you are swept away by the holiday’s tidal wave of obligations and duty and are making plane reservations to visit people who don’t honor you or really care what matters to you.  What happened? How does a capable, intelligent person lose themselves so easily in the holiday fantasy?

Last week I was absolutely obnoxious!  Now this is not an energy I often embrace, but there I was, doing and being it to the best of my ability.  I had gone to t-mobile to have my phone fixed only to find no extra holiday staff and a long wait.  I started pacing.  I started glaring, even making comments.  While others waited patiently I was walking around and around the store, being the energy of “this is NOT OK and needs to change!”

Fortunately I also started questions..