Mothers – we all have one whether living or deceased. It is never a simple relationship.
This week I’m going to visit mine, who turned 100 last April. These trips are not easy. Firstly because our relationship was tumultuous. She could be very kind and very cruel, generous and abusive, demanding and acquiescent. I freely acknowledge that I had a part in all of this. The all loving mother and the innocent child are stereotypes that complicate the relationship.
Beyond being a victim and powerless to anything - The next instalment albeit a year later, from Anne Clarke and Marilyn Bradford discussing the hierarchy of labels and recovery from the addiction to story and trauma drama.
Suicide Awareness Month
Why would someone take their own life? The answers are as numerous as the individuals, and we can never know for sure about any given person. Does that mean we should do nothing? Absolutely not! The question is: What? Obviously, if someone is actively threatening to kill themselves, it’s imperative to seek professional help. But there are other circumstances where you might find yourself with someone who is upset and/or depressed, and there are ways you can be a contribution.
Do you know you live with someone who’s an addict, but feel at a loss about how to deal with them? Have you tried conventional approaches but can’t make them work for you?
If you are around an addict, you are likely to feel and act in the following ways: (Questioning what you know to be true)
1. Agreeing to and with things you wouldn’t normally agree to.
2. Helping others out of jams or difficulties they have clearly created for themselves. This can extend to lying for them or doing other behaviors you would not normally engage in.
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Hi, my name is Anne Clarke and am an Access Consciousness Bars® Facilitator.
I have an explanation and videos about the Access Bars® in my post…
SO WHAT ARE THE ACCESS BARS® AND WHY WOULD YOU WANT THEM RUN?
Access Consciousness is a set of tools and questions that facilitate change in any area of your life that is not working for you. As a result, many specialists have taken the tools of Access to their specialty, for example, Marilyn Bradford, who is a practicing psychotherapist who applied the tools of Access to addiction and wrote the book ‘Right Recovery For You’. Marilyn went on to develop a program incorporating her expertise and the tools of Access
What Is Abuse?
Marilyn Bradford and Bret Rockmore open up the conversation about the different kinds of abuse and what change is possible if abuse has been or is a part of your life currently. Using the dynamic tools of Access Consciousness, both Marilyn and Bret have healed abuse from their pasts and now facilitate others through classes, workshops, tele-summits, and one-on-one facilitation.
What have you decided is unchangeable for you? What if 2018 is the time to change that?
My limitations have been popping up in ways I can’t ignore! There are so many points of view I’ve created or bought from this reality about my body, my finances, my relationships, family and who I am, just to mention a few of the areas where I’ve stopped myself. Does any of this sound familiar to you?
Have you ever made a new year’s resolution? Were you going to lose fifteen pounds? Be a “better” person? Work out every day? Fight less with your husband or children? Get up earlier?
Most of us were taught that this was a time we could change things. We could judge what was wrong in our lives and join everyone else in a commitment to “improve”. How well did your resolutions turn out? If you’re like most of us, not so well! Were you bewildered? Did you use this “failure” to go to more of the wrongness of you? What no one told you is that new year’s resolutions are pretty much doomed from the start! When we judge that there is something wrong with us, we have to end up separating and fighting with what we have judged, which only strengthens the “wrongness”.
One moment you’re happy, confident, creating your life and the next you are swept away by the holiday’s tidal wave of obligations and duty and are making plane reservations to visit people who don’t honor you or really care what matters to you. What happened? How does a capable, intelligent person lose themselves so easily in the holiday fantasy?